When the film ‘Twilight’ was released in 2008, I wanted to see it, though the whole vampire scenario wasn’t exactly my type of thing. There was something enticing and curious about it.
When the third part ‘Breaking Dawn’ was released in 2012, the cable company refreshed our memories by playing the previous films which brought us up to speed. My sister’s and I watched with copious amounts of popcorn. I really dig sci-fi films. I can probably tell you the social norms and rules of all things sci-fi based. So it was interesting how the rules of vampirism were changed to accommodate Twilight. The romantic development of Edward Cullen and Bella Swan though fictional in existence is believable in essence. There are many couples thriving in relationships born out of adversity and they are rock solid. This isn’t to say that they are free of issues, but they fight through the complications of life together, their foundation is concrete.
The song ‘Stand by your man’ comes to mind when I think of Bella. She knew what Edward was, but she chose to love him anyway. The bond between them grows, and as Bella puts it, they were stronger together. When I met Mr Impatient I saw his flaws. We are all imperfect, we all have deficiencies, but there is a very big difference between flaws and red flags but that’s for another blog. He was perfect enough for me. In my mind’s eye, he and I would battle together against the world. I knew of his abusive childhood and could see how far he had come despite the odds he’d had to face in his life. I believed he could and would achieve much more. I could foresee how transformed he would be with complete healing. I stood by him and with him as he stumbled and I wasn’t deterred by the downs in our relationship.
Not being too musically inclined, when we decided to marry he asked me what song I wanted to walk down the aisle to. I smiled at him and explained that I wanted him to understand the ‘why’ before presenting the ‘What’. With popcorn in tow (naturally!), we watched all the episodes of Twilight. When I played the song it was a done deal.
Heart beats fast
Colors and promises
How to be brave?
How can I love when I’m afraid to fall?
But watching you stand alone
All of my doubt suddenly goes away somehowA Thousand Years by Christina Perri
How could I abandon a man that I had grown to love just because his childhood wasn’t as beautiful as mine, just because he was scarred by it? Doesn’t he deserve a second chance? If I continued to show him unconditional love, he would proceed to recognise it, know it, feel it and reciprocate. I believed that he was the last man I would ever date.
I have died every day waiting for you
Darling, don’t be afraid
I have loved you for a thousand years
I’ll love you for a thousand moreA Thousand Years by Christina Perri
He showed me that he accepted me unconditionally, flaws and all. He had no reservations about who I was. As far as I was concerned, I had waited all my life for this one man. A handful of people who met him had their reservations about him but I dismissed their fears. After I left him I realised that many were sceptical of him but had said nothing to me. I will never blame them for their silence because the outcome would have been the same; I was going to marry him and we were going to make it work.
It would have been better to wait another thousand years than to have married him, but such is life. We live and learn. Some mistakes like mine are very costly. However, the beauty God can give you for your ashes is priceless.
. . . and to comfort all who mourn,
To care for the needs of all who mourn in Zion,
give them bouquets of roses instead of ashes, Isaiah 61:3The Message Bible